Mirror- A Christian website is telling men the key to enjoying sex with their wife - even if she doesn't want it - is to look away from her face during the act. According to Biblical Gender Roles , a husband should "not tolerate" his wife refusing to have sex with him. An unwilling wife should "fake it until she makes it" the website claims.
However having sex with a reluctant partner isn't always enjoyable, it argues.
In which case, it offers the following charitable advice: "Focus your eyes on her body, not her face. Focus on the visual pleasure you receive from looking at her body and physical pleasure you receive from being inside your wife."
"You want to connect with her physically AND emotionally during sex.
"But your wife is the one refusing to connect with you emotionally, so you have to concentrate 100% on the physical side.”
To put things into perspective, the website compares unwilling wives to an ancient Greek mythological monster.
“I know you love your wife, most men love their wives. But sin is ugly. Your beautiful bride’s face becomes ugly during this sinful time that she is grudgingly giving you sex as she grimaces wanting you to ‘just hurry up and get it over with’.”
“So like the men who could not look at Medusa’s face otherwise they would be killed, realize that if you look on your wife’s face when she is displaying a sinful attitude toward sex it will kill your sexual pleasure and may actually make it much more difficult for you to achieve the physical connection and release that you need."
Well, it kind of sounds like these "Biblical gender roles" are condoning rape, so I think maybe I'll stop short of completely endorsing everything this Christian website has to say. However, while the thought process is questionable, the practice of not looking at your wife's face during sex makes complete sense. I am not even sure how you can disagree with that sentiment. If sex was better with eye contact then how come 90% of men finish doggy style? Riddle me that shit. Now, granted, I think it's probably more of a sin that men always want sex than it is a sin that women don't always want sex. However, if your better half is going to give it to you either way, then you shouldn't want to see her miserable face while it's happening. If anything can kill a boner it's your wife rolling her eyes, or yawning, or checking her phone, or looking at her watch. Sometimes sex isn't about love. Sometimes it's just a means to an end, and generally that end is a cesspool in the swell of her back. You don't need the sight of her face to accomplish that goal. In fact, it's easier without it. Having sex with someone that looks like they are disinterested in having sex is like going out to dinner with someone that is already full. It feels more like a chore than an act of pleasure, and no one wants to to reminded that they are having a much better time than their company.
Even when two willing, lustful parties engage in sex, how much eye contact is really taking place anyway? Like a minute? Maybe? Eye contact is hot for like 30 seconds before it gets weird. That's why the Lord, at least I think it was him, blessed us with so many different pleasurable positions. It's no coincidence that missionary sucks, and it's not just because it's boring. It's because it requires that awkward moment when you are looking at each other for too long, or she closes her eyes to think about somebody else, or you get caught staring at the TV out of the corner of your eye. The more serious a relationship gets, the less passionate the sex gets, so yeah, if you really want to enjoy fucking your wife stop trying to look at her. Not because she's acting out of sin, but because her facial expression is probably going to make you feel like less of a man. Christianity has some ridiculous ideals, but I think this time they just happened to get it right by accident.