Source- A few days ago, a mother walked into a Fort Gratiot Tim Horton's. That woman - Dianne Hoffmeyer - was with her 22-month-old, attempting to get donut holes to please the teething child. And, maybe, a coffee for her sleep-deprived self.
At her nearby home today, she told us the tale that has now gone viral. Two middle-aged women, standing in line behind her, unprovoked, lobbed hushed insults her way.
"'Oh look at her hair, its nasty looking and the roots are coming through'," she recalled the women saying. "'Oh she's a whale, oh the whale needs to eat'," they continued.
For Hoffmeyer the insults stung. She recently lost 177 pounds. The women, complete strangers, were unaware of her previous weight.
"I instantly started to cry, because it hurts. I don't know the women. I don't know why they would choose to say something like that."
But what she did next is what is surprising.
"I told the cashier, I'll pay for their coffee."
She then turned around, walked out and went to her car, where she cried.
Ahh, the old "kill 'em with kindness" routine. Takes a big person to go that route. A person much bigger than I, as a matter of fact. With that said, I wish this woman didn't buy coffee for these two jackasses. Sure, it's the act of a much better person, but people shitty enough to be audibly belittling a mother standing in line for coffee with her baby girl will never actually realize just how shitty they are. It feels good to pretend that a couple of free coffees will somehow change the behavior of two social pariahs, but the fact of the matter is that it simply won't. All this woman really did was put a couple more bucks in their pocket for the next time they want to come to Tim Horton's and criticize random strangers. Did it shut them up for a minute to two? I suppose it did. I guess if that was the plan all along then we should consider it a success, but there will be no long term effects of this woman's decision to hold back tears and purchase their drinks for them. What she really should have done was pay the barista double to spit in their coffees. People don't change, so you might as well let them continue to be reprehensible human beings. Just make sure they are reprehensible human beings that are sucking down another person's bodily fluids. At least knowing that they have been had can put a smile on your face when you are done crying. If I had any advice for this woman it would be to stop paying it forward to people that aren't worthy of the gesture. After all, that's the best way to end up broke.
P.S. Normally I would point out that this gesture is slightly disingenuous once it gets posted on social media. However, since the woman in question was publicly chastised and spent like $20 bucks on coffee, I'll give her a pass for getting the publicity she deserves.