Owner of Dating Website Says That Love is for Poor People

http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/25/opinion/seeking-arrangement-ceo-on-love/


CNN- "Love is a concept invented by poor people. Love at first sight that sends shivers down your spine is a fairy tale, and it doesn't last forever. Such infatuation must be transformed into a selfless form of love, empty of possessive expectations, for any relationship to endure.

If we are allowed to admit that, then think of the possibilities. Traditional relationships are based on possessiveness and selfishness. As I look at the future of traditional relationships, I see divorces, heartbreaks and broken families."




​There's a lot at play here. Let's start with this guy Brandon Wade though. It's not all that difficult to portray a high level of success and intellectuality to a woman dude. You're problem is you lack personality and a sense of humor. Basically your mother told you to focus on getting rich and successful because you weren't much to look at and/or talk to. There's nothing wrong with that, but let's not blame everyone else for your previously unsuccessful dating life. Society isn't responsible for your inability to communicate your qualities (money) to women without sounding like a douche.

On to the more pressing matter. Does this guy have a point? Eh. I think he does, but he has a very self righteous way of getting it across. Maybe 'love is for poor people' is the incorrect way to put it. I think a more appropriate wording would be 'love isn't for the filthy, stinking, disgustingly rich'. There is definitely a middle ground between someone being poor and someone making 250k annually. 

There is no doubt relationships have changed in the recent years. It is the reason why there is an increasing number of single 30-somethings. The societal pressures of finding a life partner that once encumbered previous generations are now gone. There are pros and cons to this though. In one sense it helps us focus on ourselves before we focus on an 'us'. In another sense everyone is so goddamn narcissistic and selfish (myself included) that it is difficult to find someone who makes you want to change that.

I choose to take a more rational approach than Mr. Wade. I don't think the entire concept of love is dead. I also don't think life is a romantic comedy. I fall somewhere in the middle. However, the divorce numbers don't lie. People get married for the wrong reasons all the time. Most of these stem from insecurity. That could be financial insecurity, emotional insecurity, or just the basic fear of being alone. Social norms lead you to believe that life is supposed to happen a certain way. Dating, marriage, house, kids. The truth is everyone is very different and the common family structure isn't for everyone. 

This may all be true but lets's hope the future of dating and love isn't everyone meeting up dressed in masks looking for a sugar daddy or a side piece. That's a little overly cynical, even for my tastes. Sure, it is probably tough to maintain a monogamous relationship making over 250k a year. If I was rich I would fly as solo as an indian guy on an airplane. However, for us normal folks finding love isn't an overly optimistic premise.

This guy makes a few solid points. You should be able to live life how you choose and find a life partner that accepts you that way. However, I refuse to sit here and think that love is only for poor people like it is top ramen or one-ply toilet paper. He seems like a very smart guy, which really begs the question of why he had to start a website to turn money into pussy? It's not exactly as difficult as turning water into wine. 

P.S. If a bunch of rich 40 year old dudes want to find some gold digging strange do they really have to take to a website to do it? Maybe society is going down the rabbit hole. Women and men can't even be morally corrupt perverts and whores anymore without a computer….

P.P.S. "Believe it or not, my first kiss didn't happen until I was 21." Yeah bro, we believe you. With that combover and those designer glasses I am surprised '40 Year Old Virgin' wasn't a documentary.