Metro- A man sent his friend a ‘sad face’ emoji on WhatsApp after allegedly raping her.
The two had met and struck up a friendship a few years earlier, and would often chat to each other on WhatsApp, Bradford Crown Court heard.
Despite Falconer being in a relationship and having a young son, he often sent the then-20-year-old suggestive texts, asking her to send him naked photos and to give him oral sex.
On the evening of May 16 last year, the young woman invited Falconer to her home where she lived with her parents.
Falconer had sex with the woman after pulling her on top of him, despite her repeatedly saying ‘No, I don’t want to, stop, get off me,’ the woman told the court.
She said she asked him to leave just before 10pm, and then Googled ‘I think I have just been raped’ and ‘was it rape’.
She then sent Falconer a message on WhatsApp saying ‘U don’t understand how upset I am’, to which he replied ‘Me too :/ I’m sorry, don’t want our friendship ruined’.
She then said ‘I told you I didn’t/couldn’t do it and you did it anyway’. He replied: ‘I’m sorry ;( I feel bad’.
He also told her to ‘focus on the good you’ve got’, to which she responded: ‘Focus on the good? It’s like I’ve just been raped Ryan.’
I gotta tell you, this might be the perfect representation of all relationships that are forged online. The good, the bad, all of it. You just never know who you are talking to on the internet. It might be some guy that uses a casual request to come over as an invite to forcibly have non-consensual sex with you, or it might be a guy who genuinely cares about you and has no problem talking things out after someone comes over and forcibly has sex with you. Hell, as this case has proven, sometimes it might even be both. Seriously, Ryan may be a complete scumbag, but you can't say he didn't perform every one of his duties as an electronic pen pal. Untimely emojis? Apathetic apologies? Empty empathy? Pretty impressive from a guy that has a family he should be taking care of. Plus, if you're able ignore the fact that he sticks his penis in people without asking first then "focus on the good" is about as solid as friendly advice from a relative stranger can possibly get. I get it, the guy is a rapist. Still, I don't know too many other rapists that would try to comfort their victim afterwards. At least he's got that going for him. You can definitely do better than Ryan when using WhatsApp to finish rounding out your "social" circle, but - unfortunately - you can probably do worse too. A trusting sounding board that might rape you in real life from time to time, welcome to the never-ending paradox that is the worldwide web!