CBC- Every parent is curious about what their kids learn in sex education class.
But when Michigan mom Alice Dreger found out that abstinence was the subject of her son's upcoming lesson, she was so curious, she decided to go back to school,
With her son's permission - and the school's -- she sat in the back of the class last week.
The medical humanities and bioethics professor teaches at Northwestern University and does research on sex. The plan was to sit quietly in the back while the state-required course on abstinence was taught.
"They were teaching the kids through a game....that one out of six times a man and woman have intercourse, that the condom will fail and the woman will get pregnant...and they were handed a paper baby." Eventually, the whole class had babies.
"Almost from the beginning...It was clear to me what they were going to impart in that classroom was the story of how you can abstain from sex and have a delightful life or you can not abstain and have a terrible life and that's exactly what went on to happen."
"The lesson was...that when you meet a girl who says no that's the woman you want, basically slut-shaming the girls who might say yes," Dreger says.
You know what, I am even going to surprise myself with this, but I actually agree with the school district. Not because I am a lunatic that thinks abstinence is the right way to live, or a practice that teenagers should adhere to. I agree with the school district because I know how a kid's brain works. You give a kid an inch and they are taking a mile. The entire course of childhood is a process of learning what you can get away with and how far is too far. You tell a kid he can stay out 5 minutes past curfew, he's coming home 15 minutes late. You tell your kid they can have a beer, next thing you know they are breaking into your liquor cabinet.
The class being taught abstinence is exactly the same thing as the D.A.R.E. program. Do parents and teachers actually think the best thing for a child is to never experiment with substance abuse? Doubtful. If they did they would never encourage a college education. However, if you tell them a little bit of weed is okay at 14 years old they will be sucking dick for coke by 18. That's the same reason you should tell your children that sex results in pregnancy, and disease, and every other evil in this world. Eventually they will learn the truth that when sex is done right and safely it is a completely healthy thing to partake in, but that should be part of the natural learning process, not a school prescribed curriculum. You start passing out condoms and promoting safe sex at fourteen kids will be desensitized to Trojans by sixteen, and popping out twins by seventeen. In essence, safe sex is a gateway drug to much riskier forms of sexual expression. Especially at such a curious age. It seems the newest phenomenon is to be honest with our youth, and look how that is turning out. You've got 20 year olds and their 6 year old kids reminiscing over episodes of 'Teen Mom', while their classmates are overdosing on bath salts. Let's just stick to scaring the shit out of our children and let them figure out the proper use of the world's vices for themselves. Everything about society promotes sex, it's okay if the classroom doesn't. If we keep letting them think the world is their oyster, they'll be shooting squids into beardless clams before you can even say "class dismissed".