Metro- After two months chatting to his dream woman (identified only by her last name Zhang) Cirk decided he couldn’t wait any longer and had to meet her in real life.
The 41-year-old Dutchman flew almost 3,000 miles to Changsha Huanghua International Airport in China.
He waited for Zhang to meet him in the airport – for 10 days – but Zhang didn’t show up.
Cirk’s wait for his love interest would have been longer, but he was hospitalised for exhaustion after waiting inside the airport for over week.
Zhang, whose phone was turned off because she was having surgery, later told local press: ‘We had advanced our romantic relationship but later he seemed a little callous towards me.
‘One day he sent me a photo of air tickets abruptly, and I thought it was a joke.
‘He didn’t contact me later.’
Here's what I don't want to do. I don't want to criticize a guy for believing in true love. Sure, it's preposterous to buy a plane ticket across the fucking world and - upon arrival - wait there 10 days unannounced before succumbing to hospitalization while expecting your online girlfriend to take a hint from one out-of-context picture you sent. That doesn't seem like the best way to capitalize on an insanely aggressive gesture. However, theoretically - if we were all living in the world's most poorly scripted rom-com - it could have had a happy ending, so despite giving himself terrible odds for success I was still going to give him points for perseverance....until I looked into the facts a bit more.
Bought tickets without consulting her first? Seemed rather callous in the days proceeding the purchase? Pretty obvious that this was a move made out of depression instead of passion. I can't blame a man for doing stupid shit out of love, but I will blame him for misidentifying love. Two months in and the rut in communication is already so bad that you think you have to dig yourself out of it with a generous display of time, money, and effort? These two never stood a chance! Sixty days without a single face-to-face meeting and the honeymoon period was already over. This guy was already sacrificing everything - including his health - solely because his girlfriend hit him with the silent treatment? A relationship has to be AT LEAST 6 months old before you are well within your rights to start acting like a paranoid lunatic to keep it from falling apart. That seed of doubt creeps in any earlier and it will sprout into a full grown tumor by the time your friends feel like she's been around long enough to give you a plus one to their wedding. There's like 1,000 different concerning aspects of this story, but by far the most worrisome is that this guy was actively trying to get past the initial, fun stage of a successful relationship.